All right, y’all! 

Let’s take a pause today 

to reflect on our 

very first week together!

Because starting something new, 

especially something 

THIS vulnerable, 

is a big deal.

Like, “emotionally rearranging 

your furniture” big.

Not only for me, 

but probably for you too. 

Because growth is a group project, 

whether you like it or not!

Over the past week, 

we’ve talked about:

Showing up imperfectly as an ally.

Putting safety before fear.

Learning to listen to 

our kids’ communication.

Acknowledging when we mess up, 

because we do (and will continue to!).

Supporting neurodivergent 

nervous systems.

Holding faith and love 

at the same time.

And learning how to advocate 

inside school systems.

…Which, when you list it all out, 

sounds like a LOT for one week.

(Deep breath.)

But we did it! 

We got through it! 

You did that!!

So if your brain feels a little full … 

Congratulations, 

you’re perfectly normal. 

Slightly overloaded, 

but still normal, I promise.

Because what matters 

isn’t getting all of this right 

all at once. 

That would be unhinged.

What matters is that you showed up.

You listened.

You considered something new.

You stayed curious 

instead of shutting down.

That counts. 

It really does!

Because here, 

we don’t rush growth. 

We’re not speed-running 

emotional maturity.

We don’t demand perfection. 

I am not Vince Lombardi. 

(To be honest, 

I’m more like Beverly Goldberg 

mixed with Gemma from 

Sons of Anarchy. 

I can be nice and kind. 

Tough when I need to be. 

And I never, EVER play about my kids LOL.)

Anyway, 

we don’t demand perfection here. 

We practice consistency, 

compassion, and courage: 

One step at a time.

And let me be clear 

about something:

If no one has told you lately - 

you’re doing better than you think. 

Even on the days 

when it doesn’t feel like it.

Raising kids - 

especially queer, 

neurodivergent, 

and disabled kids - 

is not for sissies. 

This is advanced-level 

parenting.

But you’re here. 

You’re learning. 

And you’re staying.

That’s how safety grows. 

Not from getting it perfect, 

but from staying connected. 

Over and over again.

So as we head into next week…

Give yourself permission 

to breathe. 

Unclench your jaw. 

Drop your shoulders.

Laugh with your kids. 

Even when you don’t fully get the joke.

Ask questions without needing 

all the answers.

And remember: 

We are not here to fix the kids.

We’re here to grow parents.

And we’re doing it together, 

which means a lot more 

than doing it “right.”

That’s all for now. 

And don’t forget to take really good care of yourself today.